Sunday, August 05, 2007
Sunday Scribblings: Decision
I can see why some people are tortured by choices. Not by what to eat in a restaurant, or what to wear in the morning -- although, come to think of it, some can get pretty worked up by those seemingly minor questions.
We often feel we would have made better decisions with hindsight. ("If I had known that, I would have..." or "In retrospect, it would have been better to...?") Yet I would posit that the consequences of any major decision are so vast that knowing them beforehand would only paralyze us more.
18 years ago I decided to move to France to be with my future husband. Of course, if a voice had told me "You will be happy there and have two beautiful children, but if you stay in the USA you will be killed in a car accident at the age of 33," the decision would have been all the easier to make.
But what if a voice had laid out several equally attractive and fascinating life paths? How could I have ever made a proper choice?
It's likely a good thing that most life-changing choices are made relatively rashly, with little understanding of how overwhelming their consequences will be.
(Read more decision-oriented Sunday Scribblings posts here.)
Posted by Betty Carlson at 9:18 AM